Reader Prospective Foster Mom writes,
Let me start by saying that we have a healthy, happy family that I wouldn’t sacrifice for anything. With that being said, we (should be read as I) are considering fostering/adopting a child. Between a difficult, high risk pregnancy and a concerning first year, I’m choosing not to carry additional children. However, we would both like another child and have always thought that foster/adoption is a great way to give back.
My husband is the best dad and husband that you could ask for. His job allows me to focus on our daughter and home. However, I do work part time for my own sanity. Together, we make a pretty awesome team. Our daughter is a confident, well adjusted 5 year old Montessori kid.
I shouldn’t ask for more, but I am. I have this need to bring a child into our home. A child that I can love and encourage. A child that we can share our home with and truly make a difference in his/her life. My husband is beyond supportive of me and my wishes. However, he’s concerned about our daughter and the risk of having to “give back” a child. How would our daughter cope with losing a sibling?
So, my question is, what can we do to prepare her for a new sibling and/or the potential of non-permanency? My husband wants to wait until she a little older and can understand better. I think she’s wise beyond her years and would love to share her home with another child. Side note: She already has an imaginary older sister that we got because her real mom couldn’t keep her. I have no idea where that came from, but it shows me that she’s open to the idea.
